Recently I had a client who had experienced a very traumatic event with her family. She had flown into town to visit friends and family, and her family had agreed to take care of her son (who is eight years old) while she enjoyed a much-anticipated girls' weekend with college friends after the first week spent with family.

Early the next morning after her first night with friends, my client (who we will call Morgan) reached out to her aunt, uncle, and cousin (on her mother's side of the family) to see how the first night had gone with her son (we will call him Aaron).

Her family had responded that everything went well and that her son and their daughter (who is a few years younger than Aaron) had been up late chatting and giggling late into the evening. They had been inseparable during the week before my client headed to her girls' weekend, so this wasn't a surprise.

A few hours later, however, Morgan received a somewhat cryptic text that she needed to come to get her son immediately. When she attempted to get more information regarding the change of behavior from her family (they had just shared with her a few hours before that everything was going well), they repeated that she needed to come to get her son immediately and that they had found him being too affectionate and inappropriate with their daughter the night before.

This response felt odd to her, let alone the panic she felt that her family was insinuating that they were uncomfortable with Aaron's behavior, and she began to panic herself.

She was confused as to why they had changed their story, why they were being cryptic with their responses, and how she was going to address all of this with her son.

She arranged to meet them to pick up Aaron and brought him to her girls' weekend retreat as she didn't have any other family in the state.

Morgan reached out to her mom to share what had happened, and her mom told her that she wanted to give them an "earful" for treating Morgan and Aaron this way, sharing in Morgan's anger and confusion.

When Morgan reached out to me for help that day, what I channeled not only greatly diffused the confusion, anger, and panic Morgan was feeling but also shed light on a family dynamic that had been kept from the extended family for years.

What my guides shared was this;

Morgan's cousin (we will call her Blaire), a single mom living with her parents following her exit from an abusive relationship years before, had been struggling with severe anxiety for many years.

And while she had confidently and supportively agreed to take care of Aaron for the weekend, she had begun to suffer such severe anxiety from that decision that she began shutting down to the point that she was unable to care for him.

Blaire made up a reason that she felt would ensure Morgan would pick Aaron up, not even considering all of the negative and traumatic downstream impacts this reason/excuse would cause.

What my guides showed me was that Blaire was suffering from a level of anxiety that was borderline obsessive-compulsive and that her parents (Morgan's aunt and uncle) were spending all of their time and effort hiding her steep decline in mental health from the rest of the family.

The visual my guides shared was of the aunt, uncle, and Blaire inside a dome-like bubble to illustrate the level of secrecy surrounding the true level of mental instability Blaire was experiencing.

They also shared a vision of Blaire's parents circling her, like "helicopter parents", exerting immense energy into monitoring her behavior and working to diffuse her anxiety. They were spending their retirement worried and scared for Blaire and using their time and energy to keep all of this hidden from the outside world. Heartbreaking.

Blaire needed professionals to help her work through her steadily increasing anxiety and the level of impairment it was having on her life, but her family was putting all their effort into hiding just how bad it was getting. Therapy was not an option they were willing to consider (at that time, and hopefully it changes).

I was also shown a vision of Blaire in bed with her young daughter bringing her breakfast on a platter. My guides shared that if Blaire did not get help for her condition, she may continue to decline to the point that she would not want to leave her room. Similar to severe cases of agoraphobia.

Both Morgan and myself were incredibly humbled by the information/truth that we were shown, and she moved from anger and confusion over the incident into incredible empathy and worry for Blaire and her parents.

When Morgan's girls' weekend was over, she headed back to her family's house for one last night with them before her morning flight back home.

When I followed up with Morgan a few days later she shared with me that Aaron and his small cousin were again inseparable during that last day and evening and that his young cousin kept saying "I missed you SO MUCH, Aaron!"

No one attempted to separate them or talk about the cryptic text that was sent days before which had put Morgan into a panic (which is what you would think would occur if something close to inappropriate had happened). Further confirmation that it had been a way to keep the true reason for asking Morgan to pick Aaron up, a secret.

Morgan also shared that Blaire did not leave her bedroom even once during the last 24 hours Morgan spent in their home before flying out the next morning.

THIS is one of the reasons I feel SO BLESSED that I have been given this gift.

To take someone from severe panic, confusion, and anger to feelings of empathy from being able to channel the truth behind an incredibly hard situation which caused fear and panic, literally LIGHTS ME UP.

Now Morgan and her parents know the truth about what is happening with their extended family; understanding the true motive behind the cryptic text completely changed the direction of how Morgan and her mom planned to address the situation; moving from anger, to empathy, thus creating a more supportive environment for Blaire and her parents.

This session caused me to think about times in my own life when I have been triggered and become angry, confused, or anxious by someone's words or behavior. I realized that I probably cannot even count how many times I have reacted based on my assumptions about why someone has behaved the way that they have, and how many times those assumptions were completely off the mark.

It's understanding the true reason behind things like this that continue to help me stay neutral instead of being triggered by someone or something, and act more as an observer than a judge, which in turn creates more space for joy in my own life.

Where are you harboring feelings of anger, resentment, or self-doubt from making assumptions based on someone's actions, words, or behavior inhibiting you from experiencing more joy and fulfillment? Are you ready to let that go?

What areas of your life could you benefit from learning the truth?

When do you find yourself triggered, and feel the calling to begin overcoming being triggered and replacing these feelings with empathy, trust, and joy?

When you're ready, I am here with my guides holding space for you!